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Stop: There Is Life Beyond The Tracks

One accident on the North Jersey Coast Line was too much. Now it's up to five since April 1, 2011.

The voices are getting louder now.

They're getting louder than the thunderous waves that crash on the beaches of Manasquan, Long Branch, Point Pleasant and Seaside Heights in the middle of a Nor'easter. They're louder than the voices on that MTV show that co-opted the Jersey Shore name.

Seven dead in three years. At least three of them were suicides.

From 2008 to 2009, four Manasquan High School students - or recent graduates at the time - were hit and killed by NJ Transit trains.

Now Wednesday, when a teenager from Spring Lake Heights died after he was hit by a train. He apparently made no attempt to get out of the way, officials said.

These tragedies on the Jersey Coast rail tracks were once thought to be isolated and independent. Now the grief counselors in Manasquan and elsewhere in the Jersey Shore are using words like "trend" and "copycat" to describe the disturbing pattern of death and pain.

They're doing it not so much out of fear, but more out of caution. After a 17-year-old boy was killed on the Long Branch tracks in 2011, they warned the media: Be careful, because this could happen again.

Then, it did: A 19-year-old Point Pleasant Borough woman died in Spring Lake after weaving around the downed gate, and stopping her car on the tracks..

The voices online are getting louder, too. They're posting on Facebook, offering their condolences, and venting their helplessness. "So sad," some write. "So young," write others.

Others, including the opinions voiced by professionals, have veered into the realm of analysis, and even problem-solving.

Many of them have wondered aloud: Is there a link? They've asked, even as they said it with a bit of trepidation, knowing that any link could encourage more.

Each of them seem to be saying, one after another, the same repetitive desperate plea:

Stop.

Stop, and move on. There is no glamour in death. There is nothing heroic about taking your own life.

Stop, and look for help before doing anything that can be harmful, and not just to you, but also to others.

Among those voices are the crisis counselors from Manasquan High School. When the tragic trend of death took place in 2011, they actively engaged the media, asking that it reconsider photos, details and other information that could act as "triggers" for such behavior.

In the Manasquan area, the feelings about trains and tragedy are very raw. Some who have analyzed the tragedies - from mental health professionals to the ordinary citizen - have complained about a shortage of alternatives and services for young people in need. They've decried state and federal governments for turning a blind eye toward mental health.

But, in a 2011 interview, Denise Wegemen, a Manasquan High School grief counselor, and others shuddered at the notion that there is not enough help. If anything, they want people to believe that there is a place to turn. They've worked too hard for years, trying to get people to think before they act.

They want people to think that the final solution comes in a phone call, not on a wayward drive to the North Jersey Coast Line.

Those places to turn are local, and they are national:

The grief counselors and the mental health professionals know that suicide is one of the leading causes of death among teens. That's why they've worked with the media, and worked successfully with news organizations in trying to stop the glorifying of suicides through photos and words.

They're working hard to get people to stop, and look around, and realize there are other places to go.

There is life beyond the tracks.

roro April 12, 2011 at 11:52 PM
Too many kids have been taking thier own lives PERIOD!! they find this to be the answer. Instead of having these hotlines that in esence a kid is not going to call Lets wake up and have a place for them to go ,with all these empty shopping centers and stores sitting doing nothing maybe someone with money needs to step up and make one for teens. I have been wanting to open and run something for years since my daughters friend took his life .Unfortunalty I have gotten not such help!! Hoping it all changes in Toms River
Nicole Marie Doherty April 13, 2011 at 03:41 AM
I remember feeling suicidal as a teen, I was just too chicken to off myself, plus I had a very loving family which made it harder. I mostly had them because I was an outcast and still am, but I just cope with it. Plus killing yourself just hurts friends and satisfies your enimies. Back in summer of 2010 I had nearly the entire town of Brick HATE my guts and some still do and before in November 2008 I had them hate me, but I pulled through. Not to forget I constantly need "ear protection" (like an iPod) everywhere I go to tune out "screamers". Also everytime I like a guy he NEVER likes me back, he usally winds up hating me, heck I've been liking the same guy since my junior year of high school because I fear rejection. I lived up to 21 and I pulled through, if I can do it you can too.
NJ Rep April 13, 2011 at 12:47 PM
My concern also is about the NJ Transit engineers who have to live with the fact that they have contributed to someone's death even though they were just pawns in a suicide plan.
Tim April 13, 2011 at 01:50 PM
Pretty funny that after all the talk of glorifying it with pictures you choose to put a picture at the end of your article
. April 13, 2011 at 04:07 PM
How very sad.
Wine is fine but whiskeys quicker February 17, 2012 at 04:29 PM
If someone wants to die - let them. It is their right. And we are over crowded anyway. I agree that it is awful for the poor guy driving the train.
bayboat February 17, 2012 at 04:56 PM
The conductors IN NO WAY contributed to ANYONES death. They slammed on the brakes and did EVERYTHING they could to PREVENT the deaths. Im sure they are emotional having witnessed it, but they are not one iota responsible.
paddler February 17, 2012 at 05:38 PM
yes way to go to the editor of this article who attempts to write a meaningful article then runs an exploitation photo at the bottom. and brick man somewhere there are families and friends going thru terrible grief and all you can think of is being late by ten minutes . way to go
paddler February 17, 2012 at 07:07 PM
bayville i,m sure your words will be a comfort to their families you should share your bad commute stories with them. i work in nyc and take the bus or drive . worse than a delay is having a 50% tax hike courtesy of gov christie just to get to work. i dont think its a "i,ll show them" its more a person who doesnt have the coping skills to deal with their overwhelming depression its not because they hate commuters. i will say however i dont feel bad for the ones who jump off high buildings. theres many ways to take your life just dont land on me and take mine.as far as trains go i think the idea gets put in their heads from movies many of which have suicide by train . the new wall st movie had someone stepping in front of a subway. in saving private ryan lou diamond philips ran his mustang head on into a train.
Hearme February 18, 2012 at 07:29 AM
Nicole you sound like you could use someone to talk to. I doubt everyone dislikes you as much as you feel. Please find a professional to talk to.No one sees themselves the way others do. I bet you would be surprised to find people care about you and like you. Most of the rest of you people need help in a different way. I can't believe how selfish and uncaring some of you are. I hope none of you never have to know the pain some of the families of these people who have died,or the people that felt so helpless that they felt this was the way to go. As for forgetting them I know kids that have killed themselves and I've never forgot them.This thread should be deleted then locked!
Bob Basher February 18, 2012 at 02:31 PM
I can't imagine you meant to say "contributed"?
Sean Conneamhe February 18, 2012 at 04:40 PM
"Bee safe."
June Kreutzer February 18, 2012 at 06:04 PM
I lived in Bergenfield before moving down here. We had our own suicide cluster and our own unprotected railroad track. In the 32 years I lived there there was at least one death on those tracks every year, not really accidental. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and hurts many, many survivors - the train engineers, family left with years of pain, classmates and friends wondering what could have been done to help. It doesn't go away for any of them.
clea torres February 18, 2012 at 09:08 PM
yes june i lived in that area and it was common to not only see suicides but also accidental deaths on the tracks. i think paddler was actually referring to "courage under fire" with meg ryan but drucilla you have some serious anger issues . you were more fun when you were going on beer runs for the homeless in the tent villages in toms river and brick. i think it was sgt hulka who said it best in the movie stripes "lighten up francis"
clea torres February 18, 2012 at 09:11 PM
and nicole never listen to the haters .

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